You can do one of 2 things. Accept it and keep relying on referrals and introductions or you can go out and make things happen.
Up your marketing and networking activities and forget about the doom and gloomers.
Join more networking clubs , get up earlier and ensure you increase your share of, what could well be, a smaller pie over the next year or so
Does it make a difference how you dress or what you wear, e.g. the tie you wear. Does it get you noticed, make you more interesting, say something about your personality?